Wedding planning

There are so many blogs about the stages brides go through while planning a wedding. They are mostly hilarious, and completely true. While planning a wedding you have three choices, either play by everyone else’s rules and keep the peace, make a decision purely based on what you (and your fiancé) want or you can play the game of compromise. This is a delicate balance of what we want and what will keep the peace between family, friends and each other.

At any given moment we are balancing between two or three stages so happy and blissfully thinking about our forever, arguing about what shade of teal will look best or collectively agreeing on we are willing to let others decide since we don’t have the time for this. The good news is we are able to get passed the arguments and have settled on the few things that are really important to us and we are letting the other pieces (hopefully) just fall into place.

Things no one tells you about being engaged…

1. You will always feel like you aren’t doing enough planning.

2. Or that you’re doing too much (this often depends on whether your friends are also planning weddings).

        3. You will constantly stare at your ring (it’s shiny and beautifully distracting).

       4. Which also means that your left hand suddenly becomes very useful and you find yourself using it way more than before (it’s just prettier to look at now).

       5. You start using terms like ‘save the date’, ‘head count’ and ‘the feel of the wedding’ more than you probably should.

      6. You will start to care about things that you never thought were possible to care about before (the colour of someone else’s shoes? Yip, things like that) and then if your future husband dares to disagree (and this will happen at least once) you will freak out only to realize you are arguing about the font used for a return label on the wedding invitation (I’m embarrassed to admit that this totally happened).

      7. You start to regret any judgment you ever passed on someone else wedding as you now realize who much is involved in planning ‘the best day of your life’.
    
      8. You get to a point where ‘ANYTHING IS FINE” because nothing is what I envisioned (even though I cannot explain cos I don’t know what I was envisioning but it wasn’t that.)

      9. You begin to enjoy the process again, and then your finance says something that makes you stop and wonder…

A few of my gems…

“All my friends said” (which by the way when a man starts a sentence with all my friends said …it is a warning that something stupid is about to leave their mouth) “that we only need like 5 or 6 nice wedding pictures so we only need a photographer for like an hour or so”

“Can’t we just send Facebook invites?”

“You make-up and hair look fine every day, are you just going to do it yourself?” (Which for the record a girl never wants to be ‘fine’ unless that fine comes in the form of a tone that tells a girl she looks hot as heck)

10. You begin to realize that the day, the party and all that comes with it, is not nearly as important as the person you are going to marry. And if you know you found your person, your one…it’s a great feeling.

All kidding aside, I really enjoyed planning both my weddings as I knew Tyler & I were blessed to have so many family and friends interested in celebrating our love and our lives together.